Dear Arizona,
   I’m invited to a pool party, but I really don’t want anyone to see me in a swimsuit. Would it be rude to go to the party in my regular clothes and not get in the water?
—Shy in Sheboygan

Dear Shy,
   Perfect timing! I just got over dealing with the same thing. My family was invited to a “Sizzling Summer-Barbecue Pool Party,” which, when I first heard about it, sounded incredibly fun. But that was before the depressing “shopping for new swimsuits” event occurred.