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Friends or Foes?

Friends or Foes?
My friend doesn't like my other friend. How should I make them friends?

Reply from the Highlights Editors
Friendship troubles can be difficult. We're sorry to hear that this situation is causing you concern.

Perhaps you could talk with your friend about how you feel. Find a time when you can speak privately with her. Then calmly and kindly explain your feelings. Perhaps she doesn't realize it bothers you that she doesn't like your other friend.

You might also try to set up a time for the three of you to spend together. For example, you might invite both friends over to your house. If they spend some time together, they may grow to like each other.

Remember, though, that it is not necessary for all of your friends to be friends with one another. You can spend time with these friends separately. Remember, too, that you can't change how someone feels or acts. You can encourage them to change, but they are the only ones who can make it happen.

If this situation continues to bother you, you might think about talking with your parents about it. They'll likely have some good suggestions to share.

We hope this helps!

Best wishes,
The Highlights Editors

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