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Making Friends

Making Friends
I have no friends in school. What should I do?

Reply from the Highlights Editors
We're glad you decided to write to us about this. It's good to ask for help when you're not sure what to do.

You might start by simply smiling and saying hello to other students. Sometimes that is enough to "break the ice" and let someone know you'd like to be friends.

It often helps to show a sincere interest in others. You can ask your classmates questions about a recent assignment, their families, their favorite foods and music, and their hobbies and interests. People usually like to talk about themselves when they know others are genuinely interested in what they have to say. Also, people will usually ask questions in return. Having conversations like this are often the way friendships begin.

Another way to make friends is to join group activities that interest you. That way, you'll have a chance to meet other kids who share similar interests. You might like to ask your parents, teacher, or school counselor what is available. If you participate, other kids will get to know you and you'll get to know them. Before long, you may find that you have a whole group of new friends.

As long as you treat people with kindness and respect, you may find that you make new friends easily. Also, try to remember that the number of friends you have isn't that important. What really counts is the quality of the friendships.

Your parents can guide and support you as you make new friends. Other trusted adults, such as teachers and school counselors, can offer additional suggestions.

We hope this helps.

Best wishes,
The Highlights Editors

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