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Moving Blues

Moving Blues
I just moved to a different state, and I miss my friends.

Reply from the Highlights Editors
We understand that leaving your friends behind can be sad, but it doesn't mean your friendships have to end. You can keep in touch through letters and, with your parents' permission, through e-mail messages and tape-recorded messages. (Long-distance phone calls might be expensive, so they may not be an option.) Your friends might especially enjoy receiving postcards from your new state. It won't be the same as seeing your friends face to face each day, but you can still remain close.

Although it's good to keep in touch with your old friends and cherish the memories of the good times you had together, it's important to make new friends, too. You can show people you are interested in them by asking about their families and hobbies. Look for the opportunity to compliment others on something they have done or what they are wearing. If you are sincere, people will appreciate your kindness and will realize that you'd make a great friend.

We suggest that you talk to your parents about your concerns. Choose a time when your mom and dad aren't busy, and calmly explain that you've been feeling lonely since you moved. More than likely, they'll understand that moving has been a big change, and they'll do their best to help you adjust to your new surroundings.

With your parents' permission, you might decide to join some clubs or after-school activities, which will give you the chance to meet people who share your interests. Also, your mom and dad might agree to let you invite one or two kids from your neighborhood or class for a visit sometime.

You could also talk with a teacher or a school counselor. These people are used to dealing with kids' concerns after they move, and they might be able to help you think of more solutions.

We hope this helps. You sound like a caring, compassionate person, one who would make a terrific friend.

Best wishes,
The Highlights Editors

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