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Uninvited Friend

Univited Friend
I have a friend that lives in the same building as I do. She always seems to come over when I have a friend over. And when she is over, she always gets all the attention, then she gets insulted anyway. What should I do?

Reply from the Highlights Editors
We realize it can be difficult sometimes when a friend just "drops in" when you have another guest. It's usually not a problem when all of you get along, but it can create tension if one person wants to be the center of attention.

You might like to talk this over with your parents. Since they know the friend who lives in your building, they might have some ideas about how you can handle this situation tactfully. For example, you and your neighbor could agree to call before you visit each other. That way, if you have other plans, you could explain that you're busy but you would like to get together another time.

If your parents think you should just make the best of the situation, though, you could try to get along better with this girl. Try to focus on her positive traits and overlook some of the things that bother you. Sometimes this helps friendships go more smoothly. If she acts insulted over something, you could talk it over with her. Talking openly and honestly might help her realize that you care about her feelings. In turn, she might be more respectful of you and your guests.

We hope this helps.

Best wishes,
The Highlights Editors

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