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Divorce

Divorce
My parents fight sometimes, and it scares me because I worry that they'll divorce. What should I do?

Reply from the Highlights Editors
We're sorry you have been scared and upset. Most kids have that same reaction when their parents fight or don't get along. It's not uncommon for two adults to have differences that might result in a fight.

It's important that you talk to your parents or another trusted adult about your concerns and feelings. We hope you can talk to your parents and let them know about your fears. They may be able to put your mind at ease on the subject of divorce.

You might also want to talk to a trusted adult, such as a relative, a school counselor or teacher, or a member of the clergy. It's important to deal with fears and not just let them sit inside you and make you unhappy and scared. It's natural to feel threatened when parents aren't getting along. Keeping in touch with them on an ongoing basis is important.

It's also important to remember that each of your parents loves you and that you have done nothing to cause the fighting. That is between the two adults. No matter what problems they have with each other, they still love you.

If you are feeling especially worried, try to turn your attention to some activity you enjoy and get your mind off the problem for a little while.

Feel free to write back to us if you would like. We hope we have been of some help to you. We also hope your parents get through this difficult period and you will begin to feel more comfortable.

Best wishes,
The Highlights Editors