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Friend Changed

Friend Changed
I have had a friend since first grade. Now, in fourth grade, she is very different from first grade. I want to tell her I don't want to hang out with her anymore, but I can't get her to understand. Please help me!

Reply from the Highlights Editors
Everyone changes over time, but it can be hard to see a friend change so much that you no longer want to be around her. Perhaps this friend is not aware of what she is doing or saying that bothers you. Talking with her about it may give you a chance to save the friendship.

If you do discuss this with her, try to speak calmly and politely. Tell her your feelings, and don't blame her. Also, give her a chance to express her thoughts, and be sure to listen carefully. Listening is one of the best ways to understand how someone else is feeling.

After you've done these things, you may still want to end the friendship. If you decide to do this, tell her kindly but firmly.

Best wishes,
The Highlights Editors

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