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Sleepover Choices

Sleepover Choices
My friend is having a sleepover party. She invited me, but not my best friend. If I don't go to the party my friend will be sad, but if I do go my best friend will be really mad at me and feel left out. Should I go?

Reply from the Highlights Editors
We understand that you feel you're in an awkward position. However, there is probably a limit to the number of people your friend is allowed to invite to her party, and it would be impossible to include all of the friends of her friends. There will be many times when you and your best friend will be invited separately to something.

All friends are important. Perhaps you can accept the invitation to the sleepover, and then explain to your best friend that your going to the party does not change your friendship with her. You can't control the way she will react, but you should feel free to enjoy many friends, not just her.

Be sure to discuss this situation with your parents, too. They will probably have some good ideas on how you can handle this problem without hurting anyone's feelings.

We hope this helps you make a decision.

Best wishes,
The Highlights Editors

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